Celebrating Tu B’shevat – A New Year for the Trees
My family celebrates Tu B’shevat, the new year for the trees, the trees’ birthday. This is a Jewish holiday not widely celebrated in America, but it is in Israel. The Brody Bunch has our own family traditions around this festive holiday. When the kids were in preschool through last year, each received a Graham cracker with green frosting and M&Ms to depict a tree. This dessert tree was introduced to us through a preschool teacher. We sing “Happy Birthday” in Hebrew and English. And, we read Shel Silverstein’s The Giving Treeand ate a tasty tree. We were happy.
Often we go through the motions as we manage our busy school and work schedules compounded with theater and sports schedules and life. I thought that our celebration of the trees would be nothing short of checking off another obligation from the calendar. The Brody Bunch has been more than colorful with their 11, 12, 13 and 14 year old selves. Holidays are important in my family, but we often spin out of control on our self created hamster wheel. Yet, this Tu B’shevat, my family rose to the occasion and made me the happiest mom during our little celebration.
Tweaking Tradition, A Pinterest “Nailed It”
With healthier eating choices, I did not buy Graham crackers, frosting and M&Ms. It was strongly noted how disappointed people were without their frosting trees because it is our tradition. Instead, I went to a high end grocery store, bought fresh veggies and successfully mimicked a vegetable design in the shape of a tree as seen on Pinterest, really a Christmas tree, and served the vegetable tree with a holiday tray of traditional dry fruits and nuts. The vegetables, dried fruit and nuts were all eaten as the Brody Bunch reminisced about the days of their frosting trees.
We gleefully sang Happy Birthday in both Hebrew and English. And, our youngest son read to us, The Giving Tree. Our copy of this book, which was mine and my younger brother’s, from our childhood, has been on my bookshelf for more than 40 years. The story has had different meanings to me at different stages in my own life. However, this year’s dramatic reading of The Giving Tree was different with the character voices given to both the Boy and the Tree by our theatrical reader. And, like the Boy and the Tree, from the book, I was happy.
I went up to bed ahead of everyone else, and I was happy. My head it the pillow and I heard my oldest son declare, “This is the first year that Mom didn’t make us line up on the couch and take a picture. Probably because she didn’t make us frosting trees.” I jumped out of bed, grabbed a camera and rallied (bribed) the troops for our annual Tu B’shevat picture. I was met with resistance. And like any mom with a low moral compass trying to preserve pictorial tradition, I offered my son a few extra dollars for the weekend if he went along with photo. I had to shake on it. Thankfully he negotiated poorly and requested a specific amount of money after the handshake.
The Photo Shoot is part of our Traditions
We went downstairs, to regroup on the couch for the photo. And, also like tradition, there was arguing during the photo shoot, people sitting too closely, face making, inappropriate fingers in the air. I promised only to use one camera and not a camera and a phone combo. We captured some sort of photographic memento. I have heard the kids say that they are so happy that we have pictures from throughout the years, though their gratitude is forgotten when going through the effort.
It Was a Joyous Night and the Frosting Was Missed, But Like the Tree, We Were Happy
Again, I climbed the stairs and put my head back on the pillow. My husband then inquired, “Did you look online to create that vegetable tray?” Indeed I did! It was my first Pinterest ‘Nailed It’! My family ‘nailed it’ it, too. Their participation and appreciation makes the effort worth it.
I fell asleep hearing, “I have known you for a long time and knew that you found that online, it was great, but not really you … I missed the Graham crackers with frosting.” Like the Tree and the Boy, from the book, I was happy. We were all happy. Perhaps part of celebrating holidays is to create traditions that are special to each family. Kumbaya to celebrating the trees as a tradition.